How should a wife treat her husband in Islam

how should a wife treat her husband in islam
 بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم

As for as rights are concerned, it should be given and fully provided to all those who have rights on one another. If you do not give, the society will be turned towards disaster, destroying turn and demolishing point.

Before discussing the rights of husband or how a wife should treat her husband, first let me discuss overview of human rights from Islam.

ALLAH (Subhana wo Tahala) said in the Holy Quran; 

        
 وَ لَقَدۡ کَرَّمۡنَا بَنِیۡۤ  اٰدَمَ وَ حَمَلۡنٰہُمۡ  فِی الۡبَرِّ وَ الۡبَحۡرِ وَ رَزَقۡنٰہُمۡ مِّنَ الطَّیِّبٰتِ وَ فَضَّلۡنٰہُمۡ

(70)       عَلٰی کَثِیۡرٍ مِّمَّنۡ خَلَقۡنَا تَفۡضِیۡلًا      

Translation:-

“And We have certainly honored the children of Adam and carried them on the land and sea and provided for them of the good things and preferred them over much of what We have created, with [definite] preference.” 

In this ayaah it is crystal cleared that you will have to pay respect and attention to all humans because they are respected by their creator.In another place it is said

(4)    لَقَدۡ خَلَقۡنَا الۡاِنۡسَانَ فِیۡۤ  اَحۡسَنِ تَقۡوِیۡمٍ ۫       

Translation:-

“We have certainly created man in the best of stature or molds.”From this ayaat karima we can conclude that we are enough blessed because our Creator told about our stature that you are indeed in the best structure so we do not need any sort of approval certification from other humans.

Alhamdulillah! In the next part let’s talk about meaning of rights because this article is all about rights of husband.


Meanings of Rights:- 

‘Right’ is translated into Arabic as ‘haq’ ; the plural is of which is ‘huqooq’. The opposite of haq (right) is farz (duty). In other words, one’s right is quintessentially the duty of the other.

The concept of human rights in Islam begins with the respect for humanity. ALLAH has said in the Holy Qur’an:

Respect for humanity:-

وَ لَقَدۡ کَرَّمۡنَا بَنِیۡۤ  اٰدَمَ. 17:70  

Translation:-

“We have honoured the sons of Adam.”
Justice for All:-

7:29  قُلۡ اَمَرَ رَبِّیۡ  بِالۡقِسۡطِ   

Translation: 

 ” Say, My LORD has commanded justice.”
Equality:- 

     یٰۤاَیُّہَا النَّاسُ  اِنَّا خَلَقۡنٰکُمۡ  مِّنۡ ذَکَرٍ وَّ اُنۡثٰی  (49:13   

Translation:-   

” O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and female.”


Protection:- 

Islam gives every person the right of the protection of life, property and honour.


Right to Education:- 

The right makes the very basis of Islam as is proved from the following verse.

اِقۡرَاۡ بِاسۡمِ رَبِّکَ الَّذِیۡ خَلَقَ.   (96:01   

Translation:- 

” Proclaim! (or read!) In the name of your LORD.”
After discussion of rights now let’s move to the rights of husband or how a wife should treat her husband ?

ALLAH (Subhan wo Tahala) said in the Holy Qur’an;

اَلرِّجَالُ قَوّٰمُوۡنَ عَلَی النِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰہُ بَعۡضَہُمۡ عَلٰی بَعۡضٍ وَّ بِمَاۤ اَنۡفَقُوۡا مِنۡ اَمۡوَالِہِمۡ ؕ    
فَالصّٰلِحٰتُ قٰنِتٰتٌ حٰفِظٰتٌ لِّلۡغَیۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّٰہُ ؕ
وَ الّٰتِیۡ تَخَافُوۡنَ نُشُوۡزَہُنَّ فَعِظُوۡہُنَّ وَ اہۡجُرُوۡہُنَّ فِی الۡمَضَاجِعِ وَ اضۡرِبُوۡہُنَّ ۚ فَاِنۡ اَطَعۡنَکُمۡ فَلَا
تَبۡغُوۡا عَلَیۡہِنَّ سَبِیۡلًا ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰہَ کَانَ عَلِیًّا کَبِیۡرًا
(34)

Translation:- 

“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard.

But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them.

Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.” (04:34). 

If we through light on the above mentioned Ayaah it is very clearly said to women that you should treat your husbands obediently because it has commanded by ALLAH.Let me discuss details how a wife should treat her husband?

Women rights in Islam in detail

The rights of husband are given under-mentioned:

1) Obedience:- 

A wife should be obedient towards her husband. As it is said in the Holy Qur’an:


اَلرِّجَالُ قَوّٰمُوۡنَ عَلَی النِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰہُ بَعۡضَہُمۡ عَلٰی بَعۡضٍ وَّ بِمَاۤ اَنۡفَقُوۡا مِنۡ اَمۡوَالِہِمۡ ؕ
 فَالصّٰلِحٰتُ قٰنِتٰتٌ حٰفِظٰتٌ  لِّلۡغَیۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّٰہُ ؕ   


Translation:- 

“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard.” 

In this chapter women are instructed that they should be obedient to their husbands because men are one part superior than women.And in the absence of husband, his wife is accountable towards his wealth and each every thing.

2) Character or Good Manner:- 

Wives are instructed that they should have good manners. When her husband enters to home she should receive him with smiling face. She should ask about his long day activities and ask about good and bad moments of all day. If he has gone through awkward situation she should try her best level to satisfy him with soft and kind hearted words so that her husband may feel good and comfortable.

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3) Looking after:-

The third and most important responsibility of wife is to take care the children well according to Islam.


4) Protection of husband’s wealth:- 

In the absence of husband a wife is responsible  to wealth left behind husband.Beside this she should also take care of all the goods and related stuff.


5) Respect to husband’s relatives:- 

If a wife wants to live with prosperity. It is suggested to be very kind to the relatives of husband. Because they also have rights and when they come to the home of her husband she should welcome them wholeheartedly. This respect will lead a husband heart to sympathy and harmony.


6) Taking care of Her own self:-

According to a research it has been proved that those  women who take care of themselves especially their respect and cleanliness they are far happy than those who don’t.So a wife can turn unhappiness to happiness with this simple rule but it should be implemented.


 There are many other ways she can treat her husband well but we discuss some complications in families. You might have observed families are not stable and not happy so for this let’s discuss those reasons of failure of families and solution to all those problems.


COMPLICATIONS


1) Lack of gratitude

Lack of understanding with each other Lack of Islamic knowledge Following to all social trends which lead them to unhappiness and destruction. Excessive use of mobile. No quality time     Etc. 

The Power of gratitude in detail

Now solution to all these problems are;


 _SOLUTION_:-     

1) Study Qur’an and Seerat-e- Nabvi (SAW!).

2) Say thank you to each other minimum 5 times a day.

3) Specify quality time a day where no mobile be used.

4) Do not discuss people during conversation. Talk about success, future of your siblings and discuss big ideas.

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5) Be thankful to each other every time.

6) Respect each other feelings.

7) Travel all together and try to understand your partner.We have little bit touched rights of husband.

In the next article it would be presented ‘how a husband should treat his wife?

‘Till that remember us in your precious prayers. May ALLAH(Subhan wo Tahala) bless you here and hereafter. Ameen suma ameen.


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Written By: Syed Ihtisham Ul Haq Bin Mulvi Muh Khwaja Din

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